Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.
Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?
There are no guarantees.
You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.
Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.
Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.
Take the risk: decide.
Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads:
· Get as much information as you can about your situation.
You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.
· Identify and create options.
What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.
· Weigh the pros and cons of every option.
Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.
· Trust yourself and make that decision.
Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.
Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.
Until next time, stay motivated about your own improvement.
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Hypnosis CD's - Just What You Need To Kick Life Into Gear
There are many internet sites that offer hypnosis cd sales. These are recorded sessions that provide training on hypnosis. The training provided is a guide towards the process of hypnosis and the applications and uses of this process. It is believed that hypnosis can lead to a greater self worth and to a better understanding of self and therefore the ability to achieve goals that are often thought off or perceived by individuals as too difficult too accomplish. The use of hypnosis as a tool to accomplish goals is now common and this tool can lead to the resolution of problems that are deeply embedded in us.
The hypnosis cd available from many sites goes in depth into teaching things like self hypnosis. Self hypnosis is thought to be one of the leading ways to get individuals on the right path. The process simply begins with a look into self. This means that the individual has to focus on the communication of ones thoughts, both verbal and non verbal with ones self. This is vital to getting in the frame of mind for a positive self hypnosis outcome.
The hypnosis cd then goes on to explain other actions that assist in achieving this higher thought process and frame of mind. It is possible to use they way you interact with your environment on a physical basis and to explore and determine exactly your reactions. This is important in directing energies to the right area. It is also essential to emotionally determine your reactions to different situations and determine how your thought processes are directed. This leads to better control in the decision making process and assists individuals in moving towards positive paths.
The hypnosis cd on sale at many sites is of great value as it can assist in the breaking of many undesirable habits. This cd can help individuals to break habits such as smoking that can be deadly and can lead to lung cancer. It can also assist individuals that over eat and are obese. Obesity is very unhealthy and obese persons are more likely to develop illnesses such as heart disease and cholesterol problems. These may also lead to death. If there is any goal that is perceived to be out of the reach of an individual hypnosis can assist.
When purchasing hypnosis cd information it is important to make sure that the source of the information is credible. This is vital in the determination of if the information can be of any benefit to you. If possible do a lot of external reading on the subject before making any purchases. Expand you knowledge base and make sure that you are really interested in hypnosis before spending your money.
The hypnosis cd available from many sites goes in depth into teaching things like self hypnosis. Self hypnosis is thought to be one of the leading ways to get individuals on the right path. The process simply begins with a look into self. This means that the individual has to focus on the communication of ones thoughts, both verbal and non verbal with ones self. This is vital to getting in the frame of mind for a positive self hypnosis outcome.
The hypnosis cd then goes on to explain other actions that assist in achieving this higher thought process and frame of mind. It is possible to use they way you interact with your environment on a physical basis and to explore and determine exactly your reactions. This is important in directing energies to the right area. It is also essential to emotionally determine your reactions to different situations and determine how your thought processes are directed. This leads to better control in the decision making process and assists individuals in moving towards positive paths.
The hypnosis cd on sale at many sites is of great value as it can assist in the breaking of many undesirable habits. This cd can help individuals to break habits such as smoking that can be deadly and can lead to lung cancer. It can also assist individuals that over eat and are obese. Obesity is very unhealthy and obese persons are more likely to develop illnesses such as heart disease and cholesterol problems. These may also lead to death. If there is any goal that is perceived to be out of the reach of an individual hypnosis can assist.
When purchasing hypnosis cd information it is important to make sure that the source of the information is credible. This is vital in the determination of if the information can be of any benefit to you. If possible do a lot of external reading on the subject before making any purchases. Expand you knowledge base and make sure that you are really interested in hypnosis before spending your money.
Saturday, January 5, 2008
Secrets For Coping With Anxiety
Everybody in the world has Anxiety. None of us are alone when we get nervous, we just assume that we are. Some of us suffer with anxiety more than others, it can be more severe in certain situations with certain people. For some of us, it's so hard to deal with, that it holds us back in life, and makes it hard to walk out the front door every morning. But there is a light at the end of this tunnel, and you can make a big difference in a small amount of time. Here's some of my secrets to self improvement...
The first big step is to acknowledge your fears, because anxiety IS fear. Fear that turns into a vicious circle.
You can easily determine whether you are an anxious person or if you have a social anxiety disorder, by recognising the symptoms. Some very common symptoms that you may have when you are anxious are; Sickness, Sweating, Shaking, Emotional, Getting out of breath, Going Red (blushing) and Diarrhoea. Yes, all of them are unpleasant, but you may not get them all. Some of us have a selection of the symptoms, but they can amplify easily, and make us very ill. You could describe it like the first school day nerves, but you just happen to get it much more often and in the smallest of situations.
Once you determine your level of anxiety, you can move on to targetting the problem. The next stage is Safety Behaviours! Remember those two words, they are very important. Everytime you go into a social situation, you engage in safety behaviours automatically to make you feel less anxious. Some of these behaviours can be Staying by someone at all times and never leaving their side, Keeping your head down so that you won't be seen, Staying hidden, or if your Anxiety is that bad.. you often use the behaviour of Avoidence. These may sound like clever things to do if you get nervous, but they really are not. The more safety behaviours you engage in, the weaker your confidence will become.
If you constantly do those little things that make situations more comfortable, you will find it harder to be thrown into a situation by surprise. You are always going to come to a part in your life, when someone springs a surprise on you, such as; Someone in your family goes on holiday, or ends up falling ill, so you will need to do the weekly shopping, or get to work on your own by public transport. In those kind of situations you cannot plan staying by someone else to make you feel better, You have to find a way of coping on your own. So you NEED to target those safety behaviours before you can move on.
You can do this, either by contacting a councillor and arranging a meeting. A councillor will provide you with information and work with you step by step to help you cope with your problem. They will also break down all the situations you feel most anxious, to find out exactly why you feel anxious in those particular events.
Or you could do it on your own, the easier way.
Start right now, by getting a pen and a piece of paper. Right down 10 things that make you the most anxious, the one of the top of the list being the scariest situation you can think of. Now, I want you to, look at situation number 10, the least Anxiety provoking of them all. Then I want you to imagine that situation, without all the safety behaviours. Imagine you have to go into that situation, but you have to keep your head up, you can't remain hidden, you can't stick by your friends, and you have to engage in some kind of social interaction. Well now that you have that vision all planned out, I want you to go out and Get into that situation! Yes, I know its going to be difficult, but thats the point. I want you to stay in that situation for as long as it takes for you to start feeling comfortable without your safety behaviours. Then I want you to do it as many times as it takes on different days or weeks, until you find that it doesn't make you anxious anymore. Then cross it off your list. After number 10 has been crossed off, you can begin to do number 9, and then the rest of the situations until you reach number 1. I want you to do number 1 as many times as you possibly can, and you will start to find that without your safety behaviours you can become radient and confident in your own personal way.
The more you engage in social interaction, the more confident you will become. Don't ever say "I can't do this, I must avoid it" You musn't avoid anymore sitautions, Because once you avoid one situation, you start to sink back into your old routine.
Just keep smiling, be positive, and you WILL find your breakthrough point.
The first big step is to acknowledge your fears, because anxiety IS fear. Fear that turns into a vicious circle.
You can easily determine whether you are an anxious person or if you have a social anxiety disorder, by recognising the symptoms. Some very common symptoms that you may have when you are anxious are; Sickness, Sweating, Shaking, Emotional, Getting out of breath, Going Red (blushing) and Diarrhoea. Yes, all of them are unpleasant, but you may not get them all. Some of us have a selection of the symptoms, but they can amplify easily, and make us very ill. You could describe it like the first school day nerves, but you just happen to get it much more often and in the smallest of situations.
Once you determine your level of anxiety, you can move on to targetting the problem. The next stage is Safety Behaviours! Remember those two words, they are very important. Everytime you go into a social situation, you engage in safety behaviours automatically to make you feel less anxious. Some of these behaviours can be Staying by someone at all times and never leaving their side, Keeping your head down so that you won't be seen, Staying hidden, or if your Anxiety is that bad.. you often use the behaviour of Avoidence. These may sound like clever things to do if you get nervous, but they really are not. The more safety behaviours you engage in, the weaker your confidence will become.
If you constantly do those little things that make situations more comfortable, you will find it harder to be thrown into a situation by surprise. You are always going to come to a part in your life, when someone springs a surprise on you, such as; Someone in your family goes on holiday, or ends up falling ill, so you will need to do the weekly shopping, or get to work on your own by public transport. In those kind of situations you cannot plan staying by someone else to make you feel better, You have to find a way of coping on your own. So you NEED to target those safety behaviours before you can move on.
You can do this, either by contacting a councillor and arranging a meeting. A councillor will provide you with information and work with you step by step to help you cope with your problem. They will also break down all the situations you feel most anxious, to find out exactly why you feel anxious in those particular events.
Or you could do it on your own, the easier way.
Start right now, by getting a pen and a piece of paper. Right down 10 things that make you the most anxious, the one of the top of the list being the scariest situation you can think of. Now, I want you to, look at situation number 10, the least Anxiety provoking of them all. Then I want you to imagine that situation, without all the safety behaviours. Imagine you have to go into that situation, but you have to keep your head up, you can't remain hidden, you can't stick by your friends, and you have to engage in some kind of social interaction. Well now that you have that vision all planned out, I want you to go out and Get into that situation! Yes, I know its going to be difficult, but thats the point. I want you to stay in that situation for as long as it takes for you to start feeling comfortable without your safety behaviours. Then I want you to do it as many times as it takes on different days or weeks, until you find that it doesn't make you anxious anymore. Then cross it off your list. After number 10 has been crossed off, you can begin to do number 9, and then the rest of the situations until you reach number 1. I want you to do number 1 as many times as you possibly can, and you will start to find that without your safety behaviours you can become radient and confident in your own personal way.
The more you engage in social interaction, the more confident you will become. Don't ever say "I can't do this, I must avoid it" You musn't avoid anymore sitautions, Because once you avoid one situation, you start to sink back into your old routine.
Just keep smiling, be positive, and you WILL find your breakthrough point.
5 Tips for Achieving and Living Your Best Life
If you wish to live your best life possible – and who wouldn’t? There are several simple steps you can take to make it materialize.
Tip #1: Put Yourself First
Putting yourself first may sound selfish on the surface. In reality, it is not selfish at all. Putting yourself first does not mean you do not care about others. In addition, it does not mean that you hurt others in order to achieve your goals. Rather, it means that you do not allow others to selfishly interfere with your goals and with your priorities. If you hope to live your best life, you need to make your dreams and goals a priority. The more you allow yourself to be separated from that goal and the path toward the goal, the less likely you will be to achieve it.
Tip #2: Don’t Give Up
Along the path toward achieving the life you have always wanted, you will inevitably run into some roadblocks. This doesn’t mean you turn around and go back home. Rather, look for a way to work around that roadblock or to use it to your advantage. Never focus on the obstacles in your way – allowing all of your attention to be drawn to a problem is really just your self-critical voice speaking to you out of fear. Continue focusing on your desired outcomes and working toward your goals.
Tip #3: Learn From Others
Everyone around you provides you with a learning experience. Watch them and learn from them. By being observant and open, you can learn what to do and what to avoid in order to achieve your desired outcomes.
Tip #4: Work from Your Strengths
No one can do everything. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Don’t waste your time and energy beating yourself down, worrying about the things you don’t do well. Instead, recognize your strengths, take full advantage of them, and ask others who have counterbalanced strengths to do the things that you don’t do well.
Tip #5: Follow Your Passion and be Happy Now.
Perhaps the most important thing you can do in this life is to follow your passion. But don’t make your happiness conditional on achieving your goals. Be happy now, no matter what the outcome. With this attitude, you will not lose motivation for your goals, but instead, will gain increased clarity, energy and desire to achieve them.
Tip #1: Put Yourself First
Putting yourself first may sound selfish on the surface. In reality, it is not selfish at all. Putting yourself first does not mean you do not care about others. In addition, it does not mean that you hurt others in order to achieve your goals. Rather, it means that you do not allow others to selfishly interfere with your goals and with your priorities. If you hope to live your best life, you need to make your dreams and goals a priority. The more you allow yourself to be separated from that goal and the path toward the goal, the less likely you will be to achieve it.
Tip #2: Don’t Give Up
Along the path toward achieving the life you have always wanted, you will inevitably run into some roadblocks. This doesn’t mean you turn around and go back home. Rather, look for a way to work around that roadblock or to use it to your advantage. Never focus on the obstacles in your way – allowing all of your attention to be drawn to a problem is really just your self-critical voice speaking to you out of fear. Continue focusing on your desired outcomes and working toward your goals.
Tip #3: Learn From Others
Everyone around you provides you with a learning experience. Watch them and learn from them. By being observant and open, you can learn what to do and what to avoid in order to achieve your desired outcomes.
Tip #4: Work from Your Strengths
No one can do everything. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Don’t waste your time and energy beating yourself down, worrying about the things you don’t do well. Instead, recognize your strengths, take full advantage of them, and ask others who have counterbalanced strengths to do the things that you don’t do well.
Tip #5: Follow Your Passion and be Happy Now.
Perhaps the most important thing you can do in this life is to follow your passion. But don’t make your happiness conditional on achieving your goals. Be happy now, no matter what the outcome. With this attitude, you will not lose motivation for your goals, but instead, will gain increased clarity, energy and desire to achieve them.
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